You don’t live in this world to please others so why worry so much about what others want from you?
TRUE DAT. Relationship Stages
Couples are often said to go through five different stages throughout their relationship. First, they enter the romance phase wherein all they see all the positive aspects about their partners. It is characterized by daydreaming and fantasies, and intense emotions of ambivalence. The couple sees everything in their relationship as amazing and beautiful. They spend most of their time dating, and are very excited to learn new things about each other. Butterflies in the stomach and the feeling of overwhelming by joy are very common at this stage.
As the couple moves forward to the power struggle stage, they are now able to see each other’s weaknesses, causing misunderstandings to settle into the relationship. This phase is characterized by drawing away from each other, giving both partners time to calm down and breathe. Couples will now try to ask themselves, “Am I the right one for him/her?” Or, “Am I making the right decision?” They tend to question their decisions, thinking that maybe, this is not the kind of relationship they want. Nevertheless, couples continue spending time with each other, but not as often as before. There are two things that can happen during this relationship stage: first, the couple may decide to resolve the issue and will choose to move forward by talking things over, understanding each other’s differences and believing that they are meant for one another. Second, they may opt to end the relationship, and find another suitable partner. This is an important relationship stage that couples need to know about. This is normal process in a relationship, and it should not be blamed on the differences of the couple’s personalities.
Couples go through a lot of challenges in the power struggles stage that can strengthen their relationship. As they move into the third stage which is stability, they now begin to realize that fights and misunderstandings are part of a healthy relationship. Both partners come from different families and were exposed to different types of backgrounds and personalities. Therefore, they should expect that in one way or another, misunderstandings and discomforts will arise in dealing with each other’s attitudes.
About a few months to years after this stage, they will proceed with the commitment stage where they see their partners as more than companions, and actually as a part of themselves. When their partners are depressed, they also feel sad, and when their partners are happy, they share in the joy. This is the stage where couples think about their partners before doing anything that could hurt them. The reason for this is not because they are afraid to get caught, but because they are able to relive the feelings of their partners. A lot of trust has been built by this stage, and they can’t afford to make a mistake that could break it up. Finally, every relationship should desire to reach the co-creation stage. This stage involves moving beyond the relationship to entering a stage called marriage and family.
Relationship stages move in a linear process. However, as relationships are not perfect, it can move from one stage and then go back to a previous stage. After reading this article, take a moment to assess where you are in your current relationship or to reflect on a previous one? Have you matured in the way you handle your relationships, or do you still get caught up in thinking that relationships are all about fantasies? Many people falsely believe that when the butterflies in their stomachs go away that the relationship has lost its value, but in many cases that’s when the real magic begins.
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